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Saturday, November 26, 2011

Men...it's cold

Yes, this one is for the men.

Hi guys! Life's good? Great. I'm glad. I've been talking to a Few Good Men. Some of you are struggling. Phew! Struggling trying to maintain a lifestyle of "Love & Happiness." We women are not easy to deal with, but I will tell you this: if you have an honest woman, she loves your effort to make her smile and keep her happy.

So why is it cold? It gets cold when your lady isn't smiling. The saying is true that a persons smile can brighten a room. Well the same is even more true for a woman because she puts her heart into her smile. BA-AM! Her smile will warm up your house, your kids, your bedroom, your work, and your life!

Is your lady cold or is she smiling?

What makes a woman cold?

1. Feeling unappreciated. Men you can eliminate this by thanking her for the routine things - ironing your clothes, calling herr in-laws, packing the kids lunch, or cleaning the house. Just say, "Thank you."

2. Not hearing what makes her special. Do you like the way she walks? Do you like how she bites her bottom lip? What about how she laughs? Look her in the eye and say, "I love the way you ______."

3. Not getting touched. A rub here, stroking the back of her neck, rubbing your face against hers, holding her hands and paying attention to each finger you hold,or playing footsies at the dinner table. Go ahead. Do it. Just touch her.

4. Not being looked at. You married her, you chose her - look at her. Look her in the eye. Look at her when she gets dressed, puts on her makeup, or when she sweeps the kitchen. Let her know she has your attention.

Reason numbers 5 - 1,000,000! There are many reasons we as women aren't smiling. But there are solutions unique to each woman. Ask your lady what makes her warm. Ask her what makes her smile. Ask her what she likes. She may not know the answer right away, especially if she spends more time on others than herself. But leave the door open, and ask her to get back with you when she has an answer.

It's cold, but men you have the power to make it warm.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Happy Holidays

I just love the holidays. I love spending time with my family. I love seeing others happy.

For me its a time when I can give to others intangible gifts. A hug here. A kind word there. Fixing someone's plate. An invitation to my place for dinner. While many of us are living a comfortable life, others live uncomfortable in their own skin. What happened if on Turkey Day we opened our hearts to forgive someone who maybe didn't know the protocol, but were guilty of disrespecting others?

Broken homes, lies, deceit, manipulation, and abuse all create conditions for children and people to learn "wrong" instead of learning "right". Thousands of people in this world - your neighbor, your manager, your co-worker, your in-laws - were bred in unloving environments. In turn, they may treat others in a rude, disrespectful and uncaring way. Sometimes it's because they don't know a better way.

Wisdom is a better way. It takes people who are honest, understanding, and loving to point out when a person is behaving badly to others. The disrespectful people have to be willing to make changes. With your love, understanding, and support people can change. Opening your home and heart this season is one way to start. You should not however put up with abuse from anyone. If hurt people are willing to stop hurting others, they deserve a chance to be a part of your Happy Holidays.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

The Other Woman

This morning was a "Movie Review" morning for me. You know, the kind of event where your life plays before your eyes. Then you hear a, "Wow", escape your lips. It's where you are the main character and the whole movie is about you. Don't be so excited that you get to star in your own movie. The whole point is that spiritually you are being allowed to take a look at your life because God is sick of you and The Other Woman.

Once there was a girl named "Me" who saw life through others eyes. For years Me took other people's comments as her own - even the bad and critical ones. Me learned to criticize women's clothes, shoes, houses, hair, spouses, jobs, and kids. Me learned to criticize politicians and leaders. Me criticized the obvious and even what she perceived through her analytical mind.

It just so happened that one day Me was selected to star in a movie. The scenes were glimpse's of Me's life through her own mind - her past, her present, and her future. Much of what Me saw was the possibility that some parts of her life were similar to those she had learned to criticize. Ouch! Me faced the facts that Me shared the same thoughts, actions, or maladies as some of the people she squinched an eye at earlier in her life.

Me became a product of her own thoughts: her critical thoughts and comments were planted in her own garden for her to now enjoy! She was now that other woman. How sad for Me to think she could call the error in the other woman's lives. Me was wrong for living life with negative energy. Criticism is negative. But Me was ready to change. And she is. Will you? We all have the other woman in our life. Who is yours? Who are you similar to - not by choice, but because you cast negative energy around her that now haunts you?